This pocket sized book is for men who experience the death of their infant child -- whether it be miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death. Meant to be a guide during the early hours and days after finding out the news of their baby's death, the book offers suggestions for communicating with medical caregivers, offering support to their partner, telling the news to other children, making funeral arrangements and taking care of themselves in a time of crisis. It goes on to talk about effective communications during the weeks and months following the loss, going to a support group, returning to the workplace, and the issues surrounding a subsequent pregnancy.
Customer Reviews:
Avg. Customer Rating: 4.0 / 5.0
Great, short read:
This is a great book and yes it is short but it is geared toward men and no grieving man is going to sit down to a 200 page book on his feelings. Each topic is covered by a man who has been there and therefore you can relate. I got a lot out of this, too, even though I am a woman, but it is helpful to really see where your husband may be coming from. While this book does specifically target stillbirth, as that is what the author experienced, I think you can still get something out of it for miscarriage if... more info
Surprise in Size:
I purchased this book so that I could use it as a reference for families who suffer such a loss. Sorry to say I have not yet had time to read it myself. It is such a brief book. It must say a lot in a few words, which is usually how men want such things. Many of the people who call are suffering from post-abortion trauma. Men who call are usually looking for ways to save the baby their wife or partner is planning to abort. We can only tell them they have no rights and refer to them to an attorney who will... more info
not great:
I bought this book for my husband after I had a miscarriage. I thought it would be helpful. It really was not geared towards miscarriage at all, it was for someone that experienced a still birth or had an infant die soon after birth. It might be helpful in those situations. Even in those situations, I'm not sure how great it would be. It is a very short book, can be read very quickly.
Helping to understand what is normal:
It's hard to know what is normal in abnormal situations. The death of a child is (if all goes well) a very abnormal situation for which few people are prepared. And while this guide does not do the impossible (help you and your spouse quickly get over the grief) it does let you know a few important things. First, most of what you are feeling is normal, so just go with it and don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Second, you can't solve your spouse's grief so your best bet is to be supportive and watch... more info
