This book will appeal to the countless women who resent that their husbands never listen and that they have to nag in order to get them to do anything around the house; who feel like their husbands are always pawing at them to have sex and who want more from their marriage. It will appeal to men who want to have more sex, less nagging and wives who adore them. In short it's a hard-hitting, no-nonsense guidebook for men and women with a central, controversial argument: the man is primarily responsible for the marital problems. Alter says to women: You are right to want what you want from him." He says to men: Stop thinking it's your wife's fault, and transform yourself into the good husband you know you have in you." In 44 short chapters, her describes the problem areas men face and what actions they can take to fix them. Chapters include How to Know When You're Being a Man as Opposed to When You're Being an Asshole" How to Talk to Her" "Your Anger: Cut the Shit." Alter's approach is straightforward and logical; he speaks to men in a language they understand. In addition, some of the book will be geared to women where Alter will give advice on what they can do.
Customer Reviews:
Avg. Customer Rating: 3.0 / 5.0
Unfortunate title for a great book.:
Finding this book was a great help to me, as it articulated so many things that I was trying to explain to my husband. The central insight, from my point of view, is that everyone has to remember what the goal is...a happy marriage. The whole use of the word 'fault" is ironic, meant to get us past the point-counting and into the place where everyone is trying to live the marriage he or she wants, the happy, sexy, relaxed and appreciative one. Unfortunately, defensive and unhappy people are not the... more info
Man-hating book:
I admit, as a husband, I am not perfect; I have my flaws. My wife recently came across this book and now it has become her relationship bible. Problem is she has her flaws too (no one is perfect). This book directs all the blame at the guy and tells the women their husband is wrong-always wrong. This "self help" book has caused more stress and fights between us than before she started reading it. Every wife deserves her prince but this book has pounded into her head that I must be her Prince Leopold... more info
Very helpful for some couples:
This book is ideal for women who wish their husbands would treat them with a little more kindness and respect, but who feel too intimidated to insist on it. After reading it, I did four things. (1) I told my husband that I no longer though of him as "imperfect," but instead as being "90% perfect". I said he's not an abuser, adulterer, or an addict; he works hard for the family; he loves us; he would die for us; he has tremendous integrity; etc. He really appreciated hearing this from me, instead... more info
Robert Alter's Side-Splitting Comic Debut:
Browsing the Humor section at the local Borders Express, I came across this delicious work of farce by humorist Robert Mark Alter. I laughed until my ribs hurt, and eagerly await Alter's next gut-buster. Rather than attempt to place "fake" characters in a "real" world (as in a satire like "Thank You for Smoking"), Alter has decided to go all the way into farce and create his own "fake" world to accompany his screwball characters, much like the dumbed-down world of dustbowl-era Mississippi which the... more info
