For anyone who thought happily-ever-after only occurred in fairy tales, who thought their so-so marriage was the best they could expect, It's (Mostly) His Fault is required reading. Drawing on over 30 years of experience as a psychotherapist and marriage counselor, Robert Alter's central, controversial argument is that the man is primarily responsible for the marital problems. Here he reveals the win-win rewards for both men and women when husbands learn to take more active roles in their relationships. In straightforward language even the most resistant couples will embrace, It's (Mostly) His Fault shows men how they can: - Be great husbands - Stop the nagging - Have more sex - Win adoring wives It gives women: - Less reason to criticize their husbands - Partners they actually want to have sex with - The supportive and loving husbands they always wanted!
Customer Reviews:
Avg. Customer Rating: 3.0 / 5.0
Man-hating book:
I admit, as a husband, I am not perfect; I have my flaws. My wife recently came across this book and now it has become her relationship bible. Problem is she has her flaws too (no one is perfect). This book directs all the blame at the guy and tells the women their husband is wrong-always wrong. This "self help" book has caused more stress and fights between us than before she started reading it. Every wife deserves her prince but this book has pounded into her head that I must be her Prince Leopold... more info
Very helpful for some couples:
This book is ideal for women who wish their husbands would treat them with a little more kindness and respect, but who feel too intimidated to insist on it. After reading it, I did four things. (1) I told my husband that I no longer though of him as "imperfect," but instead as being "90% perfect". I said he's not an abuser, adulterer, or an addict; he works hard for the family; he loves us; he would die for us; he has tremendous integrity; etc. He really appreciated hearing this from me, instead... more info
Robert Alter's Side-Splitting Comic Debut:
Browsing the Humor section at the local Borders Express, I came across this delicious work of farce by humorist Robert Mark Alter. I laughed until my ribs hurt, and eagerly await Alter's next gut-buster. Rather than attempt to place "fake" characters in a "real" world (as in a satire like "Thank You for Smoking"), Alter has decided to go all the way into farce and create his own "fake" world to accompany his screwball characters, much like the dumbed-down world of dustbowl-era Mississippi which the... more info
A great book for masochists who can't blame themselves enough:
The book's only good premise is that it holds guys responsible for how they behave. Most of us do act like dolts at times, but unfortunately I don't think the guys he's trying to get through to are the kinds of guys that will pick up this book. It's the complete lack of holding the woman accountable for how the relationship does that bothers me. He takes the stance of "Guys, it's all your fault" which is complete nonsense. It takes two to succeed, it takes two to fail. It essentially gives the woman... more info
